Author: steff53

Judith felt her heart pounding heavily, her stomach churned. She was stood frozen outside her office door. It was still early so the office looked empty but this did not soothe her nerves.

She had been off work for the best part of two months. It was absolutely not her own choice. To cut a long story short, she had a breakdown at work, had to consult mental health professionals and was put on leave.

The past few months had been gruelling. She was trapped inside her own mind. People continually asked, ‘What have you got to be depressed about, you have everything’.

She had no answer. How could she explain to these people that it was inside her that was wrong? Not outside. It was invisible and nobody understood.

She somehow managed to enter the office and face her colleagues eventually. She was surrounded by pitying looks and glances. Everyone seemed to be tiptoeing around her, as though she was about to have another breakdown any minute.

Her boss had been fairly understanding about the whole situation. She assumed her other colleagues knew bits about the situation but probably not the whole truth. In these situations, people often relied on gossip and stretched the truth to a variable extent.

She didn’t know how to respond to any of it. She felt so alone in her experiences even though her rational brain reasoned that such problems were common and that she should not blame herself.

But surrounded by seemingly successful people and their sympathetic glances, she could not help but feel like an absolute failure.

Dear you,

As humans, we have the capacity to endure a lot physically, mentally and emotionally but everyone has their limits. When the stress and demands placed on us outweighs the resources and energy we possess, we inevitably enter the downward spiral into burnout.

Others around you may seem to be composed and dealing with life much better than you. But what appears on the surface can be merely a façade. It seems that there is a stigma and shame attached to admitting to needing help when it is entirely natural. This means that people may bury their troubles time and time again but regardless, it rears its ugly head and could manifest as a breakdown of some sort.

One of the main reasons that such problems are not openly discussed is simply the fear of other people’s reactions. Inherently, we all crave approval and want to be liked by others. But how much importance should we attribute to the responses of people who do not know us or care about us?

The people who are open-minded and caring will always welcome dialogue about difficult issues even if it may seem daunting. After all, the alternative to calamities such as suicide is a recognition and resolution of mental health issues.

As Judith exclaims, mental health issues are invisible. It is a lot easier to empathise with physical pain. Maybe you have never experienced crippling anxiety or felt like a gloomy cloud hanging in your brain or never even contemplated harming yourself in any way. If so, that’s great.

But lots of people out there are struggling with such issues. And to help them you don’t have to completely understand their issues. Sometimes people simply just need someone to talk to. And that can make a huge difference. You would be surprised how many people there are out there craving for just someone, anyone to talk to and lessen their burden. Be that someone. Be kind. Always.

Thank you for reading. And don’t forget, spread your smile 😊

Judith gaped at the clock. It was nearly 2 am! So much for an early night. She had been beyond exhausted when she got home. It was the frustrating scenario where her mind was so tired that she felt like she could not function. But as soon as she had tried to go to bed, her body just kept protesting and she had to get back up.

She thought she would have a browse on her laptop till she felt sleepy. That was 4 hours ago. She simply had not even realised that the time had just whizzed past. She quickly looked through her internet history to recall what she had been doing for so long. There was definitely nothing productive on there.

This happened to her quite often. She always tried to fill in the momentary gaps of silence in her life. And the easiest way to do that was to scroll through her phone or laptop. It was like an impulse, she didn’t even know she was doing it anymore. It seemed harmless but lately she had to acknowledge that it was affecting her life more or more.

Judith had conflicting emotions regarding social media. But even if she genuinely believed that it was affecting her adversely, sometimes she still found herself in its clutches. She had to exercise self-control and determination to ensure that she was not just wasting her life behind screens.

Dear you,

Just like Judith, we spent an ever increasing amount of time behind screens. With so many apps, websites, podcasts, videos etc to choose from, staring at our phones instead of making conversation has become commonplace.

If we look at this deeper, we realise how much of a negative effect this is actually having. There have been numerous studies conducted which link heavy usage of social media with conditions such as depression and issues such as low-self esteem.

You may be a well-balanced individual who uses social media only for its perks – connecting with others and learning more about the world to name a couple. If so, I salute you. You have mastered the fine art of not wasting inordinate amounts of time on the internet.

Rather than just wasting time, posts on social media can often trigger negative thoughts and insecurities. “Comparison is the thief of joy”. (Quote attributed to Theodore Roosevelt). This comes into place especially when we compare ourselves to the edited, falsified images of others.

No one ever seems to put up a photo of them crying, frowning, angry or imperfect in any way. Perhaps, they think that no one would ‘like’ that post and people would not want to see it. It certainly is a pretty big, brave step to take. But I feel like being your raw, true, authentic self can combat some of the negativity out there. Seeing such posts reminds people that no one is perfect. People may be able to empathise with the pain and heartache. It would definitely be comforting to know that they are not all alone when it comes to the hard times.

So today and in the future, I encourage you all to be more ‘real’ on social media. Just think for a second before you press enter, what is the purpose behind this post? Is it just so you can feel smug and better about yourself? Is it just to show off and spark jealousy in others? If so, that is hardly worth posting.

Rather, invest time into posting things that are positive and inspiring. It may mean being vulnerable and putting yourself out there for criticism. But it is far better to be criticised for doing good than it is to be complimented for doing the wrong thing.

Thank you for reading. And don’t forget, spread your smile 😊

Judith was looking at her planner. She sighed. She loved being organised and always filled her planner with as many events as possible. But then she never actually ended up doing those things.

As she often did, she found herself wishing she could have a fresh, new start. Maybe she should get a new planner? Hmm.. Or maybe it needs to be much bigger than that. She could move to a new flat? Even better, she could move to a new city. Well, she was pretty bored of her job so maybe a new city where she could have a new job?

She sighed again because she was being unrealistic. She couldn’t exactly change her whole life around drastically. She had responsibilities here. And as boring as they were, she still had to fulfill them. That was the sad part of being a so-called adult.

She knew she was yearning for a fresh start because it was September. A lot of people she knew were starting university or a new job. She thought back to how she started new school years with optimism. She loved getting new stationary and new books (especially the smell of new books!). She remembered that she always promised herself she would try better that year and procrastinate less. She managed that for a solid week or so before going back to old habits.

So yes, it was a lot easier when she was young to transition from one year and have a new start every September. But now, there were not really any new beginnings. And even if there were, change unnerved her. If she was comfortable, she tended to just put up with it even if she was not completely content.

She found herself researching activities on the internet. Something she could do locally. Her heart leapt when she saw there was a book club starting near her. She fondly thought of how much she loved reading, always had. She jotted down the time and place in her planner. It was new and different. Okay, it wasn’t as exciting as moving to a new city but it was something. She could meet new people and read new books. It was a new beginning and it would broaden her mind and experiences. That was good enough for now.

Dear you,

It is around the time when many people are indeed embarking on a new journey. Whether it be school, university or work, new beginnings can be exciting. It is a great chance to forget about the past, rectify past mistakes and look ahead with hope.

However, what can often happen is that the novelty wears off pretty quickly. Uni life wasn’t as great as you thought when it turns out you just end up eating pot noodles all week. School was just monotonous again. New job came with new problems.

What I want to invite you to do today is think of new beginnings in a different way. As Judith finds, new beginnings can just be doing a new little thing. It doesn’t have to be monumental, just something different to add variety to your life. “Variety is the spice of life”. (Quote attributed to William Cowper).

Furthermore, what we need to realise is that we are also blessed with new beginnings but don’t acknowledge them. Every single day you wake up is indeed a new beginning! You get to leave behind the burdens of yesterday. You get to look ahead with hope. Yes, things are going to go wrong and life is unpredictable but having time to garner more experiences is always a bonus.

There are many people in this world who do not have that luxury. Their time is limited and their resources may be limited too. They may be battling pain, emotional turmoil, poverty, war-stricken surroundings, crime and so many other horrific circumstances. We may feel helpless to do anything about all those atrocities. But what we can do is reflect on our own lives and be grateful for what we do have.

I hope everyone has a great academic year and that you have great new beginnings.

Thank you for reading. And don’t forget, spread your smile 😊

Judith always found herself regretting the choices she made. As far back as she could remember, she was not good at making quick decisions. In fact, going to a restaurant and choosing from a menu was a massive ordeal for her. And she always ended up annoying others with her uncertainty.

She just did not understand how to think that quick. Chocolate or vanilla? Red shoes or black shoes? Wear a jacket or a cardigan? She was constantly surrounded by questions and once she eventually chose an option, she always ended up berating herself for it.

For instance, today she was staring in the mirror after getting back from a haircut. Her hair was short. Really short. She had been researching hairstyles for a while, she had asked people’s opinions, she had spoken to different hairdressers, she had basically thoroughly researched every avenue. And then of course, she had needed time to gather up the courage to make such a bold change.

So after all that, she was here looking at the final result. She regretted it. Totally. And. Completely.

The thing was, this did not just apply to haircuts. She always ended up wishing she had done things differently. She often had full on conversations in her mind debating whether to say certain things to certain people or do things outside her comfort zone. But more often than not, she just was not brave enough to do what she really wanted. She just wondered ‘what if’ and always dwelt on the past.

Dear you,

We all question our decisions. As rational beings with the capacity to think of many options and solutions, this is inevitable. But at what point does it become self-destructive to constantly question oneself?

Well, take Judith for example. She makes what seems like a well thought out decision to get a certain haircut. She plans and prepares for it but that does not mean the end result was what she hoped for. Life can be like this.

“Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans”. (Quote attributed to Allen Saunders). This basically sums it up well. We meander along life thinking things are going to go a certain way but at the end of the day, the only certainty is uncertainty.

Being flexible about our goals and expectations can definitely help. “Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react it”. (Quote attributed to Charles R. Swindoll). This quote accurately describes the fact that what really matters is how we react to life’s many surprises. We may not be able to control what happens but we CAN control how we react.

And if we cannot react how we want, then that’s okay. We are fallible and flawed but that does not have to be just a negative thing. It just means we have to keep trying. Take things one step at a time. We are always growing as people. Every experience whether we label it ‘good’ or ‘bad’ can be valuable. Sometimes things happen to us and with the gift of hindsight, we are able to understand why things had to happen the way they did.

Basically, every experience, every regret, every victory has led you to become the person you are today. You’re not perfect, no one is. Just breathe, smile and be proud of how far you have come. And just as you have come this far, you will go further in this weird and wonderful journey called life.

Thank you for reading. And don’t forget, spread your smile 😊

Judith was at her alumni gathering. Years had passed since she had seen these people.

Everyone seemed intent on reeling off their accomplishments. People were unabashedly sharing their salaries and bonuses and this, that and the other. She didn’t know what she was expecting but she felt like she was out in the wild, with certain animals preening themselves to assert their dominance.

Judith had never been one to be extravagant in any matter. She was reserved and liked it that way. She thought often that the world belonged to the extroverts. The louder you talked, the more people noticed you. Even if what was being said was not particularly valuable, you were forced to listen to it anyway.

She admired people who exuded charisma and charm. But self-flattery never made much sense to her. Was it a way of reassuring yourself that you were doing well? Did it not show a sign of immense insecurity, that someone had to boast about oneself so much?

Whilst she looked around the room, she was struck by many differences. People had grown taller, wider, more flamboyant. Hair colours had changed and hair lines had receded. Some had aged well, some not so much. But despite the vast array of differences, she noticed something. The people who had been loud and assertive decades ago were still the ones speaking the loudest and claiming the most attention.

It was true that things changed and people changed. But this observation made Judith wonder whether a person’s true nature ever really changed. She guessed that some core characteristics laid the foundation of people’s personalities.

She did not want to dwell on her own characteristics but she definitely knew that she did not want to be one of the loud, showy ones. She valued humility and hoped that no matter what life had in store for her, she would always remain humble.

Dear you,

In a world where we seem to be constantly competing against each other, adopting the virtue of humility can be a rare sight.

“Humility is not thinking less of yourself, it’s thinking of yourself less.” (Attributed to Rick Warren).

As humans, we might be predisposed to being selfish and self-centred. Some may justify this as being essential as we have developed and made it through ‘survival of the fittest’. Having our own interests at heart is not wrong per se. But when that turns into self-glorification and self-gratification only, we may be getting sucked into a trap.

Many of the people we admire or look up to have certain attributes we wish to attain. We may compare ourselves to them or feel jealous.  But often, we only see the outward portrayal, one of apparent glitz and glamour. Being ‘famous’ or a ‘celebrity’ is not necessarily a credential in itself. What is far more important is the contribution to making the world a better place.

I truly believe the world would be a better place if every single person adopted the virtue of humility more often. Humility enables us to think beyond ourselves and our seemingly endless problems.

It opens us up to the many possibilities of how we can help others. If we are constantly thinking of only ourselves and how to make ourselves happy and just basking in our own achievements only, we are forgetting the 7.7 billion other people out there.

Thinking of others also offers us the gift of perspective. How many times have you complained about something but then realised that in the big scheme of things, your problem mattered very little? We tend to have a lot of so-called ‘first world problems’, petty things we find fault with when there are millions less fortunate out there starving and destitute. When you are next faced with a problem, just consider the magnitude of it, will it even matter 5 years from now? Chances are, no it won’t.

I will leave you with this profound quote by Mahatma Gandhi. “The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others.” 

Thank you for reading. And don’t forget, spread your smile 😊

Judith was staring at glossy magazines with an air of disbelief. She had been told time and time again not to compare herself to these unrealistic images but she had fallen into the trap again.

The rational part of her reasoned that the images were a farce. They had been edited, they had been intensely photoshopped and airbrushed. The reality was far from what these photos depicted.

But another part of her just seethed with jealousy and longing. She just wanted to look like these women. Their hair, their skin, just everything! Her own insecurities clouded her mind and she just felt dejected.

Dear you,

Sadly, Judith’s predicament is not rare in this modern day and age. We have been conditioned to rely on others to validate ourselves. It is absurd that we feel like we have to be approved by others to feel comfortable with ourselves.

Just because someone labels you a certain way, that does not immediately define who you are. Take beauty for example. Notions of beauty vary widely but as in Judith’s case, we are led to believe that only a certain view that is popular in the media should be celebrated.

“In a society that profits from your self-doubt, liking yourself is a rebellious act.” (Quote attributed to Caroline Caldwel).

Liking ourselves almost goes against the societal norm of feeling inadequate and looking at outside agencies to fill the void inside. As the quote says, it is rebellious in the sense that it sometimes take great courage to be our authentic self and then go the extra step by actually accepting that self.

“If I am comfortable inside my skin, I have the ability to make other people comfortable inside their skins.” (Quote attributed to Maya Angelou).

This quote illustrates something interesting. Imagine spending time with the people closest to you whoever they may be. In those times, you (hopefully) feel like you can just be yourself. You have the freedom to be silly, to be angry, to cry and laugh together. There is no pretence because you know you are accepted just the way you are.

Now imagine taking that comfort and confidence with you to every situation. Yes, there will be people out in the world who will not accept you like you would like them to. But, so what? Does that mean you have to betray your true self and put up a façade? Surely, that just stifles you and makes you unhappy. Do others’ opinions really warrant you degrading yourself like that?

Being comfortable with yourself is certainly no easy accomplishment. But all we can do is take small steps towards that worthy goal every day. And it is something that comes from within, NOT from other people.

Thank you for reading. And don’t forget, spread your smile 😊

Judith did not know what to feel. She was looking through photos of her best friend’s wedding. Or to put it correctly – ex-best friend.

Once upon a time, Esther had been the one person she was closest to in the whole world. Judith could bare her soul and Esther would understand. She was caring, considerate, funny, loyal, sweet, joyful… basically, every quality one could look for in a friend.

But their friendship had not stood the test of time despite their promises to each other that it would. A lot had changed in their lives and with it, they had changed and their friendship had faltered. Yet, Judith kept on hoping against hope that things would go back to how they were.

They never did. The years flew by. And here she was now, looking at Esther’s wedding photos. Judith had not even been invited. She had never met the groom. In fact, she had not even seen Esther in years.

Her eyes welled up with tears and her chest ached insistently. She looked at Esther’s smiling face on her wedding day. She looked happy and she deserved to be. For once, Judith did not feel angry or resentful, she just felt sad. But the truth was, she would always feel sad about losing her biggest ally.

Judith wiped away her tears as she realised what this meant. She wasn’t angry? That was new. She had spent so much time being angry over this. But it was gone. She realised she was finally on the road to forgiveness.

Dear you,

Forgiveness is something that most of us know is the ‘right’ course of action but it can seem pretty unattainable. It definitely is not an easy feat to achieve.

“Holding a grudge is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die”. This quote illuminates something fundamental about the notion of forgiveness. When we do not forgive and instead harbour hate or resentment in our heart, it is only ourselves we are hurting.

This is obviously counterproductive but I think it is easy to be fooled into thinking that when we remain angry, we are ‘punishing’ the other person and rightly so. We think about how much they have hurt us and justify that naturally, they deserve to get hurt too. But if you think about it, this achieves nothing. It adds strain to an already compromised relationship and you could just end up losing that person.

But perhaps you have decided that you would like to sever ties with the aforementioned person and move on. This seems on the surface to be a good decision and it may be. However, just because someone has disappeared from your life does not mean they disappear from your mind. The memories – good and bad remain and that is just a fact of life.

So what do we do about it? Well, as with everything else, it is never a good idea to dwell on the past. You CANNOT change what has already happened. Obvious, right? But we forget that obvious fact way too often.

And so yes, it may be that you have to let go of people and memories from the past. Be grateful for the good memories and appreciate the lessons you learnt from the bad memories. Most importantly, let go of the bitterness and resentment which will only eat you up inside.

I hope we can all find it in our hearts to forgive those have hurt us. Remember, you are doing it for yourself and your own peace of mind.

Thank you for reading. And don’t forget, spread your smile 😊

Judith was at a family event. She was unsettled by the onslaught of noises around her. The crowd was chattering away animatedly.

Some distant relatives approached her and started talking to her. Judith tried to keep a straight face but the questions were starting to infuriate her.

‘So, when are you getting married dear? It’s harder the older you get you know..’

Judith plastered a fake smile on her face. ‘I don’t know, I don’t really want to get married.’

She almost laughed out loud at the astonished faces she got in reply. ‘What do you mean? Are you focusing on your work or something, where do you work now?’

‘I’m in between jobs at the moment’, she admitted hesitantly.

Her relatives started frowning outright. Their sense of disapproval was very apparent. She was expecting a lecture or tirade of some sort. She quickly excused herself and slipped away from the crowd.

When she was a safe distance away, she looked back. There were so many people, talking, dancing – the epitome of fun, supposedly. But she had never felt more alone.

Dear you,

Loneliness can be accurately described as an increasing epidemic. We now have more ways to connect to each other than ever before. Whereas a 100 years ago, it would’ve taken days to get a message across the world, we can now achieve this in mere seconds. One would automatically assume that this is progress, right?

In some ways, yes. However, ironically, despite being able to connect more, a lot of people are left feeling disconnected and lonely. Why is this? And what can we do to help?

This has partly to do with the increasing life expectancy. Yet another thing we could claim is progress and certainly, medical advancements have ensured that people are living increasingly longer. However, if these long years are spent alone and desolate, is that really a good thing?

Social media has seeped into every echelon of society. It certainly has its uses but several studies have indicated the link between heavy usage of social media and mental health difficulties. More and more time is spent behind screens, leading us to feel more isolated than ever before.

Such as in Judith’s case, there are so many expectations society places on us to achieve certain milestones by a certain time. We often feel immense pressure from others but we have to always remember that we all have our own paths and journeys in this world and the only person whose acceptance you need is yours.

I just want to encourage each of us to spend more time with others nurturing and developing meaningful relationships. Instead of focusing solely on ourselves and our need for validation, open up and be altruistic. Just reaching out to one lonely person can make a massive difference in their life.

Together, we can ensure that loneliness decreases and smiles increase.

Thank you for reading. And don’t forget, spread your smile 😊

Judith looked up at a cloudless sky. The colour blue seemed to stretch to infinity and beyond. She looked down and was met by even more blue in the form of the vast sea. Sun, sea, sand. She was on holiday at a beautiful destination. What more could she want?

The thing was as soon as the plane had landed her phone had beeped. Her phone had a free roaming service. Initially she thought this was a blessing. However, it soon was turning into a curse. Her phone was an indispensable aid in life. But it often brought her more misery than comfort.

Messages and e-mails and notifications and photos tumbled in one after the other. Even though she was off work, her colleagues were seeking her advice. And even though most of her close friends and family knew she was away and needed time to relax, they were still relentlessly asking her to do things.

It didn’t help that Judith did not know how to say no. She just had a very infuriating need to please people. Any favour, every favour. She justified she was just being a ‘good’ person but lately she was not so sure. She found herself burnt out and exhausted against the demands of her life.

The holiday was supposed to be a break from all those demands but it seemed there was no escape. She sighed. She opened her phone camera and attempted to capture the beauty in front of her. She would upload it to Instagram and wait for the likes and comments. It would give off the impression that she was having a great time. It would fool others but Judith could not fool herself into pretending that she was having a good time.

Dear you,

As we progress through summer and the intermittent warm weather, we might have some time off to enjoy a break somewhere or the other. This in itself is a remarkable feat. In our busy world, surrounded by cities and people that ‘never sleep’ and everyone in a perpetual hurry, a break is very much needed.

However, as portrayed by Judith above, the break might not offer you the rest and relaxation you crave so dearly. We often take our burdens with us. I mean, they’re in our minds so it is hard not to. But we take along something else that can often rob us of our peace – our phones.

I personally have a love-hate relationship with my phone. I recognise that it has many features that make my life much easier than it was 10 years ago. But sadly, I also realise that it has many unnecessary features which waste time and halt productivity. Especially when on a break or holiday, the incessant beeps and vibrations can ruin the scenery and atmosphere that we are trying so hard to enjoy.

Ironically, Judith uses her phone to post an image on social media portraying herself to be having a good time. The sad truth is that many of our lives have been reduced to this. Virtually every single detail (but only the good details) are splayed across social media for others to appreciate. But are those posts significant experiences in your life? Did you garner any true joy out of those times or were you too distracted by your phone screen?

I think most of us could do with appreciating the moment itself and not getting interrupted by other concerns. Being more ‘mindful’ of our experiences is invaluable as we usually tend to be either stuck in the past or worrying about the future. Whilst doing so, we are wasting away precious time which we will never gain back.

So, put away your phone (after you read this of course) and try immersing yourself in your surroundings and your experiences. Make the most of now.

Thank you for reading. And don’t forget, spread your smile 😊

Judith gazed at the podium. A gathering of graduates with their black caps were seated under the bright lights. Her eyes roamed over the beautiful architecture in the room – high ceilings, ornate paintings and sparkling lights. But what sparkled more were the faces in the audience – there was an overwhelming sense of joy and pride etched on everyone’s faces.

Judith had never been to a graduation before. She hadn’t even attended her own due to certain circumstances. To be frank, she’d always thought the fuss was a bit too much anyway. Even nurseries did graduations these days, it had become so commonplace.

But now finally she understood. What happened here today was a conglomeration of so many dreams. Dreams that were fulfilled through endless hours of hard work and perseverance. What happened here today was also a celebration, of all the hours of laughter and joy shared between friends, the hours of wisdom imparted by tutors and even the late night last minute library sessions. It was about being part of an institution that truly believes in furthering learning and using that learning for the good of the human race.

Thus began the clapping. After each name was called out, the graduate came on to the stage and received their certificate after a handshake. There was only a millisecond between them to rest your hands before resuming the thunderous clapping. Judith looked out at the stage and eagerly waited for her sister’s name to be called.

When the moment finally came, she found her vision blurring with tears and her heart bursting with pride. She fondly recalled her sister being born two decades ago and yet again marvelled at how fast time flies.

Dear you,

In our world today, everything seems to be focused on achievements and the markers of these achievements. Happiness is sometimes reduced to merely ‘appearing’ to own the right things and a life of luxury. But as human beings, we are capable of so much more. And we definitely need to look past the exterior to truly reach self-actualization.

This post has more of a personal note to it as the graduation scenario is based on my sisters’ graduation last month.  Watching her reach this particular milestone was very fulfilling. I knew it had taken a lot of effort and determination to achieve what she had but I never doubted her abilities or talents. I am absolutely certain she will continue to succeed in all her endeavours and she will make the world a better place through her positive actions. I cannot say this enough – I am so proud of you, my not so little sister.

For me personally, this graduation event highlighted an important notion. And that is being happy for the success of others. Often in this world, we congratulate people but are seething with jealousy inside. Jealousy is an ugly emotion and counterproductive. What instead we must strive for is be genuinely happy for others and to support them to achieve their goals. After all, when even one person does something for the good, it can have a rippling effect on society and the world as a whole.

So let us all join together in working towards meaningful goals ourselves but also supporting each other to make this world a better place. One step at a time.

Thank you for reading. And don’t forget, spread your smile 😊